How to Find Clarity - When What's Next Isn't Clear, Do This
Anyone else feeling the New Year approaching and feeling a mixed bag of emotions thinking you’re at a crossroads, uncertain of what lies ahead?
I know from well…the fact that I’ve felt this way myself AND clients have shared it too - this lack of clarity is unsettling, stirring up feelings of anxiety and doubt! It's a time when the absence of clarity can feel particularly daunting.
I want to share with you some ways of yes, finding clarity but also (spoiler alert!) how it's important to remember that it's okay not to have all the answers.
In fact, this uncertainty can be a powerful catalyst for growth and self-discovery.
So first things first….Why is or can Clarity be so elusive?
Let’s be honest here because…it just doesn’t work any other way!
Clarity can be elusive because it requires us to confront our deepest fears and uncertainties. It requires us to confront the unknown.
Eeeekk right?
Our minds crave certainty and predictability, annnnnd when faced with ambiguity - anxiety and confusion can surface. This yearning for clarity is deeply rooted in our desire for control and understanding of our life's trajectory.
However, the pursuit of clarity is not just about finding answers - it really is about understanding ourselves and our desires more deeply and this! This is something i am so deeply passionate about so let’s get into it…
1. Lifestyle Reflection: What Do You Really Want?
The first step towards gaining clarity is to reflect on the lifestyle you desire!
This isn't just about your career or family, it's about the essence of the life you want to lead. Whether it's a simple, peaceful existence or a dynamic, adventurous one, understanding your desired lifestyle is key.
For example, you might envision a lifestyle where work-life balance allows you to spend more time with family, flexibility to travel, provide ample time for health or fitness or take up dance, art or music passions!
Journaling Prompts:
Envision your ideal day from morning to night. What does it look like, and how does it make you feel?
What brings you the most joy and fulfillment in life?
2. Overcoming the Fear of Failure - Dream Freely
"What would I do if I wasn't afraid of failing?"
This powerful question opens the door to limitless possibilities. It's about giving yourself permission to dream without the constraints of fear and self-doubt.
It's not about grandiose dreams (and they are welcome too!) but about allowing yourself the freedom to explore without the constraints of fear.
Simple Practice: Place a hand over your heart and repeat, "I am free to dream. My possibilities are limitless."
This affirmation is intended to open up your heart space, allowing you to explore your true desires without fear.
3. Aligning with Core Values: The Compass of Life
Understanding and aligning with your core values is like having a compass that guides you through life's journey. It's about finding contentment and fulfillment, even when the path is challenging, because you're moving in a direction that resonates with your deepest beliefs.
If you haven’t explored this for yourself, check out our Values Journal Workbook and really work through what you are moving towards in this one precious life! This exercise is designed to help you identify and connect with your core values, providing a sense of direction and purpose.
If you have worked through your values before:
Journal Prompt: "List your top five core values and how they currently manifest in your life."
4. Future Visioning: Meeting Your Future Self
Future visioning is a powerful practice where you meet your future self.
Future visioning is more than just a daydream; it's an immersive journey into your potential future.
It's a space where you can meet the person you are capable of becoming, learn from their experiences, and draw inspiration for your present life.
This exercise allows you to connect with the person you aspire to become, gaining insights and inspiration.
Sign up to our monthly Resource Letter and receive an in depth process for Future Visioning!
Embracing the Beauty of Uncertainty
Life is a multitude of experiences, and not all of them come with clear signposts or directions.
It's natural to seek clarity and purpose, but it's equally important to recognise the value in the unknown and the uncertain. Here's how to embrace uncertainty and find the transformative and enriching experience it can actually be:
Recognizing Growth in Uncertainty: Often, our most significant growth occurs in times of uncertainty. These periods challenge us to step out of our comfort zones, prompting us to explore new ideas, perspectives, and parts of ourselves that we might not encounter in more …stable times.
Cultivating Presence and Mindfulness: Uncertainty can teach us the art of being present. Instead of fixating on future outcomes, we learn to appreciate the here and now, finding joy and contentment in the current moment. This mindfulness can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our desires.
Building Resilience and Adaptability: Navigating through uncertain times builds resilience. We learn to adapt, to be flexible, and to approach life with a problem-solving mindset. This resilience becomes a valuable asset in all areas of life, empowering us to face future challenges with confidence.
Encouraging Exploration and Curiosity: Uncertainty opens the door to exploration, its when we don’t have much to loose that we can invite curiosity and the freedom to experiment with different paths. This exploratory phase can lead to discovering new passions, interests, and even unexpected career paths or relationships.
Trusting the Process: Embracing uncertainty involves trusting the journey and believing that even if the path isn't clear, each step is leading you somewhere meaningful. It's about trusting that the experiences, people, and opportunities that come your way are contributing to your growth and evolution.
Finding Clarity in Reflection: Sometimes, clarity emerges not through action but through reflection. In uncertain times, reflecting on your values, experiences, and goals can provide insights that guide your future decisions. This introspection can be a powerful tool for gaining clarity.
Journaling Prompts for Embracing Uncertainty:
"What have I learned about myself during uncertain times?"
"How can I find joy and fulfillment in the present moment?"
"What small steps can I take today towards my goals, even if the end path isn't clear?"
Uncertainty isn't just a challenge to overcome - it's an opportunity to grow, learn, and discover.
It's a reminder that life is a journey of continuous learning and that sometimes, the most beautiful destinations are found off the beaten path.
By embracing the present and trusting in your ability to navigate the unknown, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities and the potential for profound personal transformation.
If this has expanded your desire to further journey the path from feeling stuck to LIVING & THRIVING in your own authentic FREEDOM as we find your inner resources, unlearn non-deserving beliefs, close looping patterns and connect to your true nature & EXPRESSION, contact Nicole and schedule a Free Discovery Call today.
